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Love Propels, But Does Not Make A Relationship

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Samuel Prince-Nnaji


There has been lots of misconceptions and misplacement of love in relationship.

Most people really don’t know the place of love, and when it is revealed in a relationship, so often times it’s exploited and disparaged.

In the same vain, people failed to realize that love is a seed that must be planted first, then nurtured and left to grow.

What then is LOVE?

Innumerable schools of thought have tried to proffer answers to the knowledge of what love really is all about, its core value and it place in relationship.

Here is a model definition of love from my perspective;

“Love is a very raw emotional force that compels a man to sacrifice his all for the betterment of other”

Love is always in it raw state and needs to pass through some processes to become fit for use. It is more dangerous than a concentrated acid, reason why you see lots of people, young and old being victimized by it effects as a result of their lack of knowledge of love.

The force of love, though has a compelling ability, it does not act out of irrationality. But if a man is gripped by it compulsiveness and he manifest wrongly, he does that without wisdom because love is not an embodiment of foolishness. The only people that say love is blind are those who are blindly misguided by their own wrong knowledge of love.

What comes before LOVE?

The foundation of a relationship should not be established on love, because it will fade and be washed away with time, it’s like a building standing on a sandy soil, it has no root or a consolidated foundation and it’s prone to collapse. Any relationship that starts up with love as it base will encounter an insurmountable challenges that will inevitably bring it to a halt. The matter of love is too heavy and hard to handle in relationship. hence reason why you must tread with caution when going into a relationship with him or her.

Rather than concentrating on love in your relationship, what is right to do is to deploy UNDERSTANDING for the foundation footing of your relationship.

“Relationship is an act of conscious engagement of two minds, to build a beneficial union”

When two matured minds come together in the place of relationship and out of their own will, it is understanding that binds them together.

“Understanding in a relationship is a man’s capability to discover the weaknesses and strength of his partner; same enables him to help the other gets better”

In every man resides some level of weaknesses that reveals his inadequacies in some aspects of life, in same man, there are lots of strengths which enable him to accomplish whole lot in life.

Understanding your partner is the basic key to achieving success for your relationship and it’s your responsibility to be together as your understanding of one another provides you the privilege.

For a man to be in love, he must have first been involved in the powers that holds love firm which is embedded in understanding. Consequently, sacrificing your all for your partner in love in a romantic relationship; the person must be very dear to your heart. It must be someone you respect, your friend, someone you can tolerate, trust and one who you can freely relate your problems with.

Understanding Encompasses;

Better communication


Respect for one another



Peace of Mind.

For your relationship to thrive, then you must put understanding in the right perspective, it’s the constituents of these understanding that produces LOVE along the line, Love on its own cannot make a relationship if all of the pillars that understanding provides is not present.  It does not make a relationship from the scratch, but propels the union in the long run when understanding is fully established

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Your relationship can only get better. Cheers!

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